protection order

dear pinoy lawyers,
thanks i found your website. i am bothered by my situation this time. these concerns about the prsent situation of my marriage. i am public school teacher with 3 kids ranging from ages 7 yo, 3 yo and 10 mos.my husband is a seaman. with a position 3AE. last march, just this year, 2 days before he went onboard i found out that he has a mistress.i don"t know much about when did they started to have an affair or if they had a child. my husband wouldn't tell me much though he admitted that they have a relationship. even the girl confirmed it when i managed to call her. my husband said he would end it but he is not calling us anymore since the day he left.can i file a protection order for financial support though we are not separated? i wouldn't separate from him and i doubt if he'll stop his philandering ways.i just wanted to secure my childrens future.will my being emloyed affect the percentage of his financial support? thank you and more power..

are you his allottee?

yes i am his allottee..but our allotment depends only on what he wishes to give.it doesn't even amount to 20% of his total earnings.in this case, can i still file for a protection order? so that we can get what is legally ours separated or not?how can i prevent him from selling our property if ever he wishes to sell them, our house and lot, and the motorbike, because i heard him say it.can he sell them without my consent?if worst come to worst,and i file charges to them, i know i have to accuse them both, what case can i file to the mistress that she will be imprisoned or matanggal sa trabaho? tnx for ur upcoming answer and God bless..

here is an informative thread on seamen: http://www.pinoylawyer.org/t5547-re-dismissed-ra9262-husband-still-not-supporting-sufficiently#23218

for support, you can send him a demand letter. then you can file a petition in court for additional support. isn't he under a poea contract? allottees are supposed to get automatic part of monthly salary.

a protection order is theoretically possible, but most courts look for physical violence.

is the other girl here or on the ship? what evidence do you have?

yes. he is under poea contract.he is giving us our monthly allotment but it is only according to how much he wants to give. for my children,i only want to get what is legally ours. i only have pictures of them in a cellphone which is his by which i also manage to get from him and a recorded voice message found in that cellphone also.. are they enough evidence? he doesn't hurt me physically but could i use emotional abuse as a means to get protection order? are his emails to me acceptable in court if i use it as evidence? tnx for taking time to answer my queries..God bless U..

the girl is here in the Philippines working.

the other girl is not relevant in a TPO application. If he has control of the salary and not his agency, then it will be difficult for the court to enforce the order if he is outside the philippines.

I've not seen a TPO issued for emotional or economic abuse. try to insert even a threat of physical abuse.

hi atty's..gud day to u...it's been awhile that i was able to get back to my querries. I'm following the cases posted in this forum just to have collective ideas on how i would deal with my problem. marami pala kami. as to the status of my marriage well hindi na talaga komuntak ang magaling kong asawa sa akin. kahit magtanong man lang tungkol sa mga anak nya.masakit kasi ang bilis-bilis nya naman kaming nakalimutan.pwede ko ba sya kasuhan ng abandonment? patuloy pa naman ang padala nya ng allotment sa amin ng mga anak nya. pauwi na sya dis dec. wat advise could you give me sa mabuti kong gawin? ang hirap kasi inaalala ko parin mga anak ko..salamat po sa anumang maging kasagutan nyo.maghihintay po ako..

all he can be obligated to do is provide support.

tnx po sa kasagutan..di ko po alam gagawin ko. pano ko po masisiguro ang tuloy-tuloy nyang suporta sa amin kapag dumating na sya? hindi ko na po siguro madadaan sa opisina nya kasi tapos na rin kontrata nya sa kanila kasi sa pagkakaalam ko, pag tapos na ang kontrata hindi na sila employed ng kompanya at wla ng hawak ang opisina sa kanila unless ikontrata ulit sila.alam ko hindi na sya magbibigay habang nasa daong sya. yon kasi ang nangyayari bawat dating nya. siya humahawak ng pera.yong natitira sa padala nya kung may natitira man kinukuha nya. di naman ako umaalma kasi ayaw ko ng gulo at sabi ko pera lng yon..ano po ba dapat ko gawin para magkaroon naman ako ng karapatan sa kita nya. minsan sinabi nya pa wla ako karapatan sa pera nya kasi sya daw nagpakahirap kitain yon..ang tanga ko talaga!di ko naisip na ipaglaban sa pagkakataong yon karapatan ko bilang asawa at karapatan ng mga anak ko. gusto ko pong idaan ito sa legal na paraan at maging handa sa darating na mga pagkakataon.Saan po ba ako pupunta? ano ba mga hakbang dapat ko gawin..please turuan nyo po ako..ayokong sa huli ko na gagawin ito. pra na lng sa mga anak ko. Salamat talaga sa pagbibigay pansin sa problema kong ito..

please review the previous responses to your questions.

tnx po sa lahat ng sagot.God bless po..

atty,gud day..ask ko lng po kung pwedeng isawalambahala ng asawa ko ang isang demand letter?what should i do nxt if this will happen?

i do not recommend it. if they really intend to file a case, they will allege that he did not even respond. but he is not legally obligated to do so.

atty gud day..latest po sa case ko..dumating na yong asawa ko last dec 31.nagbakasakali ako na magkita kami . pumunta ako sa ofis nya noong jan 2. kasi sabi ng isa nyang kasama magrereport daw sila. di sya nagreport. di rin kami nagkita kasi di ko alam kung saan sya hahanapin. di rin sya umuwi sa kapatid na tinutuluyan nya pag nasa Maynila sya. umuwi agad ako kinaumagahan kasi may trabaho ako.. hindi pa po sya umuuwi hanggang ngayon. nagpalit pa sya ng cel #. kanina ibinigay ng tatay nya yong # nya kasi tumawag sa kanila. tinawagan ko yong number. sumagot yong babae. sinagot din ng asawa ko. hiniling ko na umuwi sya para pag-usapan namin ang problema.sabi nya final na desisyon nya na iiwan nya kami ng mag anak ko para sa babae. pero binigyan ko pa sya ng palugit hanggang katapusan nitong jan. na mag-usap kami ng personal at umuwi sya dito sa amin sa probinsya.plano kong padalhan muna sya ng summon ng korte para harapin ako.Pwede po ba iyon?pag hindi pa rin sya umuwi kakasuhan ko na ciguro sya..naiisip ko pong ikaso sa kanya abandonment pag di sya nagbigay ng sustento,
psychological violence, at concubinage. atty. ang ebidensya ko po ay mga text messages ng kabit nya sa akin, pictures nila, recorded voice message ng babae at yong pag-amin nya. pwde na po ba ang mga iyon? nabasa ko sa isa sa mga forums dito na matibay ng ebidensya ang pag-amin nya.totoo po ba yon? salamat po. kailangan ko po ng inyong agarang sagot..

i feel your best case is economic abuse under ra 9262 for failure to provide support. he has the burden to prove that he sent support.

you can add concubinage, but you must prove that they are living together. it is not enough that they have a relationship.

do not use recordings if they did not know they were being recorded.

atty gud day..ipinasummon ko po asawa ko sa court dahil wala tlagang balak magpakita sa akin..nagkita po kami on the day mismong na set ng pao..nagdeny po syang may kabit sya but he refused na bumalik sa akin. di na ako nagpilit...kasi ayaw na nya..i just wanted to know kung pwedeng magfile ang asawa ko ng annulment na hindi ko alam? 'yon kasi narinig ko..wla pa naman akong natatanggap na kahit ano mula sa court or anything to inform me about the matter...kailangan po ba yon ng pirma ko? tnx po..

your consent is not needed, but you should be informed.

pwede po bang kontrahin ang annulment case? ano po pwede panlaban dito? tnx.

if she files a case, keep appealing it to the supreme court.