Legal separation / child support.. I need help on this please

Good day !

Hi I am a mother of one. And my exhusband is a seaman. I have decided to separate with him last june 2012 because the marraige is no longer working. We always had a fight, he can't even share to me his income, his mother receive higher allotment while me and his daughter are receiving half of what he is giving to his mom, there are other reasons that I wanted to raise up, he is the reason why I lose my previous job which give me a bigger salary. Before we get married i am already working as a call center agent. recently when i decided to end everything he threat me that I will never ever see my 4 year old daughter .He send me messages containing profanity words , it so happened that my daughter accidentaly deleted those messages . that he tries to call me on the phone and threat me that if ill end up everything between us he will pull the trigger of his gun. But that didnt happened ofcourse. He listen to his mother as always , i cnat blame him for that because he is the only child . I want to end this relationship, we always had a fight everytime he is home ..Now he is on board. He texted my sister that he will join drug related thingie. He is asking his mom to give her daughter groceries ( milk , foods) I hope you can reply to my concern . I just want to live with my daughter now without him .I am scared of him, I want to make a move now. as soon as possible . What should I do ? where will i go ? help me please

You need spiritual counselling. If you love Jesus Christ and He resides in your heart you will love your husband too. A child is the aggrieve party in time of breaking the home and the parents are accountable to God. I'm sorry ha, it is a Divine Law and not Civil Law. Pray always and God will answer your prayers. Sorry ulit.

pack your things and leave. if your marital living with him is not working anymore. at wla ng love feelings? well. comon senaries yan ateh:) i dnt knw if is right to say this. better to be alone rather than living together with some1 like him. just see to it na kya mo responsibilities and kaya mo manindigan bilang mag isang ulirang ina:) pack up and go! setle mo muna sarili mo. find a job first and once na sa palagay mo ay kya mo na mag isa kasama ang baby mo? (2 pla) eh di go on!! wala kng dpt ika takot sa kanya not unles may gagawin kng labag sa batas na may kinalaman sa pagiging legal na mag asawa nyo. pero sa ngayun you better kip on praying and ask guidance to 1 and only god subhana watta allah:) enshalah evrything will be alright. another option. mag paka sweet ka sa kanya. pa inlabin mo sya ulit sayo ng bonggang bongga:) iparamdam mo s akanya pag mamahal mo. at s aganung paraan sya mismo mag kukusa na ibigay sau what u deserv. we all deserv to be hapy. in right time and in right way. lahat ng nagaganp sa buhay natin ay sukli o bunga lng ng ating mga gawa s akapwa at s asarili.

p.s.
kuya raheem:) aww!!

kuya , salamat sa payo.. actually ang payo mo po ay napakaganda.. okay lang po sana kung sa isang pa sweet ko po ay masasagot na agad lahat nang dasal ko... now update lang po.. nag ka boy friend po ako.. my husband new about it and he is threating me again .. nagpa blotter na po ako sa takot ko.. what for kung babalki pa ko , since whatever he is doing right now for sure will not make me change my decisions.. pananakot po lahat nang ginagawa nya .. even ung custody nang anak ko... panu ko po makakayanan eto .. anu po ba ang mga bagay na dapat ko pong gawin ? ayoko na po sa kanya sa bagay na naagbuhatan nya na po ako nang kamay nung last year..

is custody and support of your child still a concern?

YES po.. it is .. planu nya po kasing kunin ung anak ko sakin.. natatakot na ko sa kaya nyang gawin..pinag ipunan nya po daw talaga ung pagpapakulong sa akin.. at sa boyfriend ko.. i admit na hindi ko na sya mahal at wala na talaga sa options ko na magsama pa kami,,. i really need your help.. wala naman po akong pera na para mag process nang kung anu anu.. kasi call center nga po ung trabaho pero hindi naman ganun ka laki sahod..

what if po pagpinahiram ko sa kanya anak ko.. then di po nya isuli? anu po pwede kung magawa doon ?my pwede po ba akung ikaso sa kanya ?kasama pa pong brainwash sa bata .. i ask my baby kasi sabi nya ayaw daw po syang pauwiin nang dad nya .. i recorded her statement po..

@bernz.. if your child is below 7. you have the full rights when itcomes custody. pero sa scenario mo ay may iba kang kabalentong:) so better be careful kc once ma justify yan ng hubby mo? eh dun ka sa kulungan mag chat:) hehehe/ if you really love this bf of yours.. you can stil see him and have a date. but dnt dare to liv with him on 1 roof.. pag nagkataon? sa 1 selda din kayo mag papatuloy ng inyong mga nakaw na sandali at bawal na pag ibig. hehehe. careful ateh.. ako din like ko mag col center. pero mas bagay daw col boy. ahihihihi:)

anu po ba ung mga evidence na pwede nyang makuha na mag papatunay ?what should i do incase na sampahan nya ako nang kaso?

pumupunta po kami nang baby ko sa apartment nang bf ko..

mahal nang bf ko ang baby ko.. as if tinuring nyang anak eto.. anu pa po bang pwede ko magawa ?

kawawang baby. yan lng ang masasabi ko:(

assuming you are having sexual relations, the law will look upon your adulterous relationship as immoral. as long as you are continuing with the illicit relationship, your husband will have the necessary basis to take custody away from you.

anu po ba ung mga evidence at kailangan po ba na updated eto ?what should we do about it nang bf ko ? do we have to separate ?anu po ba ung mga dapat kung gawin para hindi mawala anak ko sa akin ?

adel.villafuerte wrote:You need spiritual counselling. If you love Jesus Christ and He resides in your heart you will love your husband too. A child is the aggrieve party in time of breaking the home and the parents are accountable to God. I'm sorry ha, it is a Divine Law and not Civil Law. Pray always and God will answer your prayers. Sorry ulit.

super like .... for me Divine Law is the most powerful law... God answer a prayer with good intention..

bernz0424 wrote:anu po ba ung mga evidence at kailangan po ba na updated eto ?what should we do about it nang bf ko ? do we have to separate ?anu po ba ung mga dapat kung gawin para hindi mawala anak ko sa akin ?

if you're main concern is the welfare ng anak mo..alam una ang dapat mong gawin..kasi hindi lang ang present situation ang dapat mong iconsider and future din ng anak mo..

he is back na po... and lahat nang threats na my papatayin .. o gagantihan nya ako... at ang boyfriend ko .. nagtetext sya sa mga kapatid nang bf ko para siraan ako .. i actually texted him na sana sa bata nalang lahat e focus yung attensyon nya ... i will never ever go back sa kanya .. regardless my bf o wala pa  ako .. ang problema .. pag hinihiram nila ang bata threats agad ang ginganti nya .. na di nya susuli anak ko .. sinasabihan ko na nag aaral pa ang anak nya .. if mahal nya anak nya he should understand .. hindi naman sya ang nagpapakain sa bata .. 1, 500 nga lang ang kaya nilang ibigay para sa isang buwan .. .kahit off ko po sa kanila ung anak ko .. kasi parents nya po ung concern ko ... na makasama din nila ang bata .. pero patuloy pa din po ang paninira nya sa akin.. i even ask him na mag usap kami .. maghintay nalang daw po ako .. anu po ba ang pwede ko pong magawa .. thanks po

bilang isang babae nalang po  at ang supporta and custody nalang ang aking tatanungin.. anu po ang laban ko sa taong eto ?hindi ko na po alam kung panu pa e deal ang tulad nya ... lahat na pag pakumbaba ginawa ko na .. pero hindi na po talaga maganda ang mga actions nya ..