wife still demanding for more

hi atty. my brother has a wife and a 3 yr old child. year 2008 po ng magpunta sa Singapore to work ang kapatid ko. then few months after that naghiwalay po sila ng sister in law ko although hindi pa po legally hiwalay kasi nag-iipon pa ng pang-annull ang kapatid ko. Never po siya pumalya sa pagpapadala. In fact nung una po ay sobrang laki ng padala nya. Taga probinsya lang po kami. 13k po nung una, now ay 10k nalang ang padala nya. pero monthly po iyan walang palya. ngayon po ang wife niya is asking na dagdagan at gawing 15k monthly ang padala at magbigay ng additional 20k para daw po sa study ng anak nya for nursery ngayong schoolyear. Very responsible po ang kapatid ko at talagang lagi iniisip ang anak nya. kala po nung wife nya porke't nasa abroad ay sobrang dami ng pera. ang problem po ng kapatid ko malaki din po kasi ang cost of living sa Singapore. kaya hirap po sya sa ngayon na dagdagan ang padala nya.
QUESTION KO PO AY:
1. kelangan po ba iyon ibigay ng brother ko? (kasi sa tingin po namin ay enough yung 10k sa pangangailangan ng 3yr old na bata)

2. may work po yung ina, talaga po bang ang ama lang ang susuporta sa pangangailangan ng pamilya? wala po ba talagang share ang ina?

3. ano pong pwedeng ikaso sa kapatid ko kung hindi po nya dagdagan ang padala sa ngayon?

4. may hakbang po ba na magagawa ang brother ko para maprotektahan din po naman sya? iniipon po nya lahat ng resibo ng padala nya.

is this an issue of trust as to where the money might be actually spent? he can elect to pay the school directly rather than through the wife.

10k a month is a very substantial amount, but note since they are married, both spouses are owners of each other's entire salaries. no, the husband does not have to support by himself. it can be proportional. note also that the wife is entitled to support.

i recommend he enters into a written agreement for support. always keep the proof of support given.

thanks atty.

ano pong pwedeng ikaso sa kapatid ko kung hindi po nya ibigay yung hinihinging dagdag? posible po bang ipadeport ng wife ang kapatid ko maski nagsusuport naman po at may proof of remittance naman? kawawa naman po kasi yung kapatid lagi nalang nagaalala. yung wife nya po sobrang magastos. yung pinapadala nya para sa anak nya ginagamit nung wife para sa parents nya at mga kapatid nya.

and pano no nya mapipilit yung wife nya na humati sa financial na gastusin ng anak nila? at yung written agreement po na sinasabi nyo? please advise po. Salamat po!

he has to convince her to enter into that agreement, but he cannot force her.

she can file a case for economic abuse, but as long as he is keeping evidence that he is providing for the child then it should not prosper. deportation cannot be done by mere filing of a case against your brother.

attorney, nagtext po yung wife ng brother ko sa kanya, kinukulit na po siya about doon sa pang-enroll ng bata (for nursery) na 20k daw po, will it be alright po kung hindi ibigay ng kapatid ko yung hinihingi niya? or makakasuhan po siya? malaki na po kasi yung 10k at hindi naman po malaki ang sweldo ng kapatid ko sa ibang bansa.

one thing po about don sa written agreement, ano pong pwedeng sagutin ng kapatid ko at ano pong pwede sa wife nya?

pwede po ba sya kasuhan ng economic violence ng wife nya kung hindi nya ibigay ang 20k, kahit nagpapadala naman po sya every month ng walang palya?

or kung matuloy po na idemanda sya, ano pong magiging epekto noon sa trabaho nya sa ibang bansa and sa pagbabakasyon po ba nya sa pilipinas ay mahohold sya?
salamat po ulit sa walang sawang pagsagot ninyo sa aming mga katanungan.

i recommend the money be paid to the school directly.i feel he can afford the 20, but he just feels bad about giving it.

is the wife working aside from taking care of their child? his obligation to provide support did not change just because they are separated.

since he is sending regular support, a criminal case should not prosper eventually, but while it is pending, the wife can have him held here if she knows how to get him on the watch list.

nagtatrabaho po yung wife nya, and may yaya po yung bata na binabayaran ng kapatid ko.

balak nga po ng kapatid ko na bayaran yung school pero possible po ba na maghati sila nung wife nya? parang tig 10k po sila? bukod pa po yung regular na 10k nyang padala. reasonable na po yun?

he should keep negotiating with his wife. if he insists, and the wife files ra 9262 case against him, i do not believe it will prosper.

Good day atty. my question related to the topic is what if nakapag file na sa fiscals office nang RA9262 complaint ang wife pero sa complaint nya di kasama ang economic abuse, tapos the wife is asking more sa regular na pinapadala pangastos aside sa direct na payment sa schools na ng 2 anak. pwedi pa rin bang kasuhan nang economic abuse under RA9262 eh may complaint na nga nang ganito? (I have all the proof of remittances under her name)

the situation is kahit nag complain ang wife nang RA9262 pero pinapadala pa rin ang normal na support of 20k/month at direct ko pang binabayaran sa bank acct. nang may ari ang upa nang bahay plus direct ko rin pong binabayaran sa school ang tuition nang mga bata. Yung wife ko ay may trabaho rin earning around 18k/month.
now she is still demanding more...

i have several pictures of her habitual alcohol dringking spree with friends na may mga kasamang lalaki pa in different occasions most of the time sa bahay pa kung saan ako ang nagbabayad. kaya alam ko na di napupunta ang pera for the benefit of my children. eh yung uniform nga lang nang mga bata 2 lang ang palda at 3 blouse..at araw2x pa nilalabahan nang anak ko ang blouse. the point is inuuna pa nya ang luxury kaysa needs. (dito papasok ang issue of trust)

the same, you cannot prevent her from adding the economic abuse complaint but if you are continuously sending support and keeping the evidence of it, then the case will not prosper.

attyLLL wrote:the same, you cannot prevent her from adding the economic abuse complaint but if you are continuously sending support and keeping the evidence of it, then the case will not prosper.

thanks, i do have the proof of supports.