Demanding money from me as a mistress

I was mistress. It started around February. At first I didn't know I was. But then I was able to figure out and asked that we should stop seeing each other. But I got swayed with his words and his stories of how he was poorly treated by his wife and mother. I even cried with his stories.

Until his wife found out in May. She was able to track me down through her best friend's help. They both talked to me and threatened to tell my family and relatives and expose me on social media if I will not stop seeing the husband. I've agreed and even blottered the husband because he was following me around that time.

Now, the mother of the husband is demanding money from me. She said I should give back all the money the guy spent on me. I didn't force him to buy anything for me. He didn't buy me anything. But they want the money he spent on me back. I'm afraid that even if I'll give the money, they'd still hunt me down and ask for more.

It has been emotionally unhealthy for me. There are times I do not go to work because I lose focus. I feel like I've grown panic attacks because of it.

cut off communication. change your number, block them on social media or deactivate your accounts. if they make a mistake like shaming you with public posts then you can charge them with cyber libel at the PNP cyber crime division

Thank you for your response, Atty. But what should I do now because yesterday due to emotions I've been dealing with, I've somehow agreed to pay them and I have until end of this month to give the money.

if you still cut off communication and ignore them, their recourse is to file a collection case against you and prove that the basis of demand is proper. forced into that position, do they have the resources to do so, and how would they prove the supposed affair without exposing themselves also to scrutiny

Yes, they have resources to do so, Atty. I know this may sound a completely stupid idea, but I am still hopeful that this can be done through communication and not having to take it to the authorities. I haven’t told my parents about this and they’re using it as their leverage to me also.

Atty would it be possible for both of us to go to an atty and then have a demand letter where we will be bind to follow terms from each other? Thanks a lot

you're giving in to blackmail. but you can also look at it as buying peace which is perfectly legal