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GOOD DAY MA'AM/SIR,
I AM 30 YEARS OLD AND MARRIED TO MY ITALIAN HUSBAND SINCE JANUARY 8 OF THIS YEAR 2016 IN THE PHILIPPINES, IT WAS A CIVIL WEDDING. AND BEEN RESIDING HERE IN HIS COUNTRY SINCE FEBRUARY 2016. WE NOW HAVE A BABY OF OUR OWN, I GAVE BIRTH LAST APRIL OF THIS YEAR TOO.
ANYWAY I HAVE A FIRST BORN, AN 8 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER THAT I HAD FROM MY EX BOYFRIEND. ME AND THAT SAID EX BF HAS BROKE UP SINCE MY DAUGHTER WAS ONLY LESS THAN A YEAR OLD, IF IM NOT MISTAKEN SHE WAS ONLY 6-7 MONTH OLD, SO THIS WAS LATE 2008. *WE WERE NEVER MARRIED* BUT MY DAUGHTER IS USING HIS LAST NAME SINCE BIRTH, ON HER BIRTH CERTIFICATE AND ALL DOCUMENTS.
SINCE THAT DAY WE BROKE UP HE NEVER GIVE ANY FINANCIAL SUPPORT TO MY DAUGHTER, THOUGH *HIS MOM* SOMETIMES SENDS GIFTS FOR HER. SOME OF HER BIRTHDAY SHE SENDS ME MONEY OR TOYS OR CLOTHES, SOMETIMES 3-5K OR SOME CHRISTMAS OR WHEN MY DAUGHTER WAS SICK IN THE HOSPITAL WHERE SHE SEND ME 3K THRU WESTERN UNION TO ASSIST WITH HER MEDICINES.
I NEVER OBLIGED MY EX BF TO GIVE A REGULAR FINANCIAL SUPPORT TO MY DAUGHTER. FIRST, BECAUSE I BELIEVE THAT IF YOU CARE FOR YOUR CHILD THERE IS NO NEED FOR OTHERS TO SAY THAT YOU SHOULD SUPPORT THEM. SECOND, I HAVE A STABLE JOB AND I CAN RAISE MY DAUGHTER WITH THE MONEY I WAS EARNING AS A WORKFORCE ANALYST IN A BPO COMPANY IN MAKATI SINCE 2009. THIRD, THIS GUY DOESNT EVEN HAVE A JOB AND JUST LIVING WITH HIS AUNT, PROBABLY STILL SUPPORTED BY HIS MOTHER WHICH IS WORKING ABROAD.
MY CONCERN IS THAT I MESSAGED HIM ON FACEBOOK FEW MONTHS AGO INFORMING THAT I WILL NEED HIS HELP THIS TIME BECAUSE I WILL GET OUR DAUGHTER FROM PHILIPPINES AND HAVE HER LIVE WITH ME HERE, I ALSO ASK OF HIS CONTACT NUMBER BUT I HAVE MESSAGED HIM ON HIS CONTACT NUMBERJUST ON FACEBOOK. AT FIRST HE REPLIED HE MIGHT HAVE AN OCCUPIED DAY, IM NOT SURE IF ITS BECAUSE OF A JOB OR WHAT, YET I DIDNT ASK AND JUST TOLD HIM THAT WE WILL CONTACT HIM WHEN HE IS NEEDED. AND THAT I WILL PAY FOR ANY DAY THAT I WILL DISTURBED HIM IF ITS NEEDED.
THIS WEEK I MESSAGED HIM AGAIN, AND HIS APPROACH WAS A BIT ARROGANT AND TOLD ME THAT I DONT NEED HIS HELP. THAT WHAT IF HE SAYS NO, AND HE ALSO SAID THAT NOT ALL THAT I WANT I WILL GET. THIS MADE ME FEEL WEAK IN THE KNEES LIKE THIS MEANS HE WILL NOT GIVE ME THE Notarized Affidavit of Consent of the other Parent with attached his valid document of identity WHICH ARE VERY IMPORTANT REQUIREMENTS FOR MY DAUGHTER TO APPLY FOR HER VISA. AND WE MIGHT ALSO NEED *HIS PRESENCE FOR AN INTERVIEW WITH THE CONSULATE*. IF HE IS ACTING LIKE THIS IM NOT SURE WHAT HE WILL SAY DURING THAT INTERVIEW WHERE THE RESULT OF VISA RELIES.
BY THE WAY I HAVE BROKE UP WITH HIM BECAUSE HE WAS ABUSING ME PHYSICALLY. HE WAS HURTING ME IN FRONT OF OUR CRYING BABY, ALL BECAUSE HE IS VERY INSECURE OF HIMSELF. I DONT KNOW IF ITS A MENTAL PROBLEM OR WHAT. BUT IVE NEVER SEEN ANYONE SO SELFISH AND INSECURE LIKE THAT. I GAVE HIM MANY CHANCES BEFORE TOTALLY SPLITTING UP BUT THAT LAST TIME WAS VERY SCARY IM SCARED THAT WE WILL END KILLING ME. I TOLD HIS FAMILY ABOUT THIS REASON EVER SINCEIT STARTED WHICH WAS EVEN BEFORE I GOT PREGNANT AND THEY WERE ALL HAVE NICE TO ME, AND TOLD ME TO UNDERSTAND HIM. BUT MY PATIENCE HAD GONE TO THE LIMITS THAT I ALSO LEARNED TO SAY BAD WORDS TO HIM EVERYTIME WE FIGHT EVEN IF IM NOT THAT KIND OF PERSON.
I WAS PREGNANT AND I GO TO WORK WITH A BIG BRUISE BECAUSE I WOULDNT LET HIM HAVE SEX WITH ME, OR HE IS VERY DRUNK AND JUST BECOME ANGRY FOR NO REASON, THERE WAS A TIME HE PUNCHED MY LEGS SO HARD IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT WHEN I WAS ASLEEP. THERE WAS A DAY HE WAITED I GOT OUT FROM MY OFFICE AND PULL ME TO COME WITH HIM I HURTED MY HAND IN A JEEP'S OPEN COVER ON ITS SIDE,I STILL EVEN HAVE THAT LITTLE SCAR ON MY LEFT HAND. ITS SMALL BUT ITS DEEP SO IT LEFT A SCAR. AND I WAS PREGNANT BY THAT TIME,AND ALL THOSE TIMES HE WASNOT WORKING, HE WAS JUST STAYING AT HOME WAITING FOR THE MONEY COMING FROM HIS MOTHER. THERE WAS A LOT BUT I DONT EVEN HAVE AN EVIDENCE TO PROVE IT NOW. I THOUGHT OF THOSE DAYS WITH HIM WAS MY DARKEST DAYS BECAUSE OF WHAT HE DID TO ME. BUT I LET IT ALL PAST BEHIND ME SO I CAN START A NEW LIFE WITH MY DAUGHTER.
BUT THEN NOW HE IS THE ONE POSSIBLE REASON THAT I WILL NOT BE ABLE TO GET MY DAUGHTER AND GIVE A GOOD FUTURE HERE WITH ME. THIS IS IF HE WONT GIVE ME THE DOCUMENTS I NEED AND HIS PRESENCE IN THAT INTERVIEW IF ITS NEEDED.
I DONT KNOW WHY HE IS ACTING AFFECTED NOW, WHEN ALL THOSE YEARS HE NEVER EVEN INITIATE TO VISIT MY DAUGHTER EVEN ONCE, EVEN WHEN I TOLD HIM THAT OUR HOUSE IS OPEN ANYTIME FOR HIM TO SEE HER. I EVEN BRING MY DAUGHTER TO SOME OF THEIR FAMILY GATHERING, BECAUSE I WANT MY DAUGHTER TO BE FAMILIAR WITH THEM, HER FATHER AND HER RELATIVES ON THAT SIDE. I HAVE BEEN CASUAL AND NEVER INSULTED HIM OR SAY ANYTHING AGAINST HIM. IT WAS A HARD PROCESS AFTER ALL HE DONE TO ME BUT IM THINKING THIS IS IMPORTANT FOR MY DAUGHTER BECAUSE I DONT WANT HER TO THINK SHE IS A BASTARD.
I HOPE SOMEONE CAN GIVE ME ADVICE ABOUT THIS. THERE IS TOO MUCH EMOTION I APOLOGIZE FOR WRITING THIS TOO LONG.
IF HE DONT GIVE ME THE DOCUMENTS IM ASKING FROM HIM, MY DAUGHTER CANT APPLY FOR HER VISA.
IM HOPING SOMEONE CAN GIVE MEA LIGHT ABOUT MY SITUATION.
THANK YOU SO MUCH AND MORE POWER FOR THIS WEBSITE THAT SURELY HELPS A LOT OF PEOPLE LIKE ME.
MAFI
I AM 30 YEARS OLD AND MARRIED TO MY ITALIAN HUSBAND SINCE JANUARY 8 OF THIS YEAR 2016 IN THE PHILIPPINES, IT WAS A CIVIL WEDDING. AND BEEN RESIDING HERE IN HIS COUNTRY SINCE FEBRUARY 2016. WE NOW HAVE A BABY OF OUR OWN, I GAVE BIRTH LAST APRIL OF THIS YEAR TOO.
ANYWAY I HAVE A FIRST BORN, AN 8 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER THAT I HAD FROM MY EX BOYFRIEND. ME AND THAT SAID EX BF HAS BROKE UP SINCE MY DAUGHTER WAS ONLY LESS THAN A YEAR OLD, IF IM NOT MISTAKEN SHE WAS ONLY 6-7 MONTH OLD, SO THIS WAS LATE 2008. *WE WERE NEVER MARRIED* BUT MY DAUGHTER IS USING HIS LAST NAME SINCE BIRTH, ON HER BIRTH CERTIFICATE AND ALL DOCUMENTS.
SINCE THAT DAY WE BROKE UP HE NEVER GIVE ANY FINANCIAL SUPPORT TO MY DAUGHTER, THOUGH *HIS MOM* SOMETIMES SENDS GIFTS FOR HER. SOME OF HER BIRTHDAY SHE SENDS ME MONEY OR TOYS OR CLOTHES, SOMETIMES 3-5K OR SOME CHRISTMAS OR WHEN MY DAUGHTER WAS SICK IN THE HOSPITAL WHERE SHE SEND ME 3K THRU WESTERN UNION TO ASSIST WITH HER MEDICINES.
I NEVER OBLIGED MY EX BF TO GIVE A REGULAR FINANCIAL SUPPORT TO MY DAUGHTER. FIRST, BECAUSE I BELIEVE THAT IF YOU CARE FOR YOUR CHILD THERE IS NO NEED FOR OTHERS TO SAY THAT YOU SHOULD SUPPORT THEM. SECOND, I HAVE A STABLE JOB AND I CAN RAISE MY DAUGHTER WITH THE MONEY I WAS EARNING AS A WORKFORCE ANALYST IN A BPO COMPANY IN MAKATI SINCE 2009. THIRD, THIS GUY DOESNT EVEN HAVE A JOB AND JUST LIVING WITH HIS AUNT, PROBABLY STILL SUPPORTED BY HIS MOTHER WHICH IS WORKING ABROAD.
MY CONCERN IS THAT I MESSAGED HIM ON FACEBOOK FEW MONTHS AGO INFORMING THAT I WILL NEED HIS HELP THIS TIME BECAUSE I WILL GET OUR DAUGHTER FROM PHILIPPINES AND HAVE HER LIVE WITH ME HERE, I ALSO ASK OF HIS CONTACT NUMBER BUT I HAVE MESSAGED HIM ON HIS CONTACT NUMBERJUST ON FACEBOOK. AT FIRST HE REPLIED HE MIGHT HAVE AN OCCUPIED DAY, IM NOT SURE IF ITS BECAUSE OF A JOB OR WHAT, YET I DIDNT ASK AND JUST TOLD HIM THAT WE WILL CONTACT HIM WHEN HE IS NEEDED. AND THAT I WILL PAY FOR ANY DAY THAT I WILL DISTURBED HIM IF ITS NEEDED.
THIS WEEK I MESSAGED HIM AGAIN, AND HIS APPROACH WAS A BIT ARROGANT AND TOLD ME THAT I DONT NEED HIS HELP. THAT WHAT IF HE SAYS NO, AND HE ALSO SAID THAT NOT ALL THAT I WANT I WILL GET. THIS MADE ME FEEL WEAK IN THE KNEES LIKE THIS MEANS HE WILL NOT GIVE ME THE Notarized Affidavit of Consent of the other Parent with attached his valid document of identity WHICH ARE VERY IMPORTANT REQUIREMENTS FOR MY DAUGHTER TO APPLY FOR HER VISA. AND WE MIGHT ALSO NEED *HIS PRESENCE FOR AN INTERVIEW WITH THE CONSULATE*. IF HE IS ACTING LIKE THIS IM NOT SURE WHAT HE WILL SAY DURING THAT INTERVIEW WHERE THE RESULT OF VISA RELIES.
BY THE WAY I HAVE BROKE UP WITH HIM BECAUSE HE WAS ABUSING ME PHYSICALLY. HE WAS HURTING ME IN FRONT OF OUR CRYING BABY, ALL BECAUSE HE IS VERY INSECURE OF HIMSELF. I DONT KNOW IF ITS A MENTAL PROBLEM OR WHAT. BUT IVE NEVER SEEN ANYONE SO SELFISH AND INSECURE LIKE THAT. I GAVE HIM MANY CHANCES BEFORE TOTALLY SPLITTING UP BUT THAT LAST TIME WAS VERY SCARY IM SCARED THAT WE WILL END KILLING ME. I TOLD HIS FAMILY ABOUT THIS REASON EVER SINCEIT STARTED WHICH WAS EVEN BEFORE I GOT PREGNANT AND THEY WERE ALL HAVE NICE TO ME, AND TOLD ME TO UNDERSTAND HIM. BUT MY PATIENCE HAD GONE TO THE LIMITS THAT I ALSO LEARNED TO SAY BAD WORDS TO HIM EVERYTIME WE FIGHT EVEN IF IM NOT THAT KIND OF PERSON.
I WAS PREGNANT AND I GO TO WORK WITH A BIG BRUISE BECAUSE I WOULDNT LET HIM HAVE SEX WITH ME, OR HE IS VERY DRUNK AND JUST BECOME ANGRY FOR NO REASON, THERE WAS A TIME HE PUNCHED MY LEGS SO HARD IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT WHEN I WAS ASLEEP. THERE WAS A DAY HE WAITED I GOT OUT FROM MY OFFICE AND PULL ME TO COME WITH HIM I HURTED MY HAND IN A JEEP'S OPEN COVER ON ITS SIDE,I STILL EVEN HAVE THAT LITTLE SCAR ON MY LEFT HAND. ITS SMALL BUT ITS DEEP SO IT LEFT A SCAR. AND I WAS PREGNANT BY THAT TIME,AND ALL THOSE TIMES HE WASNOT WORKING, HE WAS JUST STAYING AT HOME WAITING FOR THE MONEY COMING FROM HIS MOTHER. THERE WAS A LOT BUT I DONT EVEN HAVE AN EVIDENCE TO PROVE IT NOW. I THOUGHT OF THOSE DAYS WITH HIM WAS MY DARKEST DAYS BECAUSE OF WHAT HE DID TO ME. BUT I LET IT ALL PAST BEHIND ME SO I CAN START A NEW LIFE WITH MY DAUGHTER.
BUT THEN NOW HE IS THE ONE POSSIBLE REASON THAT I WILL NOT BE ABLE TO GET MY DAUGHTER AND GIVE A GOOD FUTURE HERE WITH ME. THIS IS IF HE WONT GIVE ME THE DOCUMENTS I NEED AND HIS PRESENCE IN THAT INTERVIEW IF ITS NEEDED.
I DONT KNOW WHY HE IS ACTING AFFECTED NOW, WHEN ALL THOSE YEARS HE NEVER EVEN INITIATE TO VISIT MY DAUGHTER EVEN ONCE, EVEN WHEN I TOLD HIM THAT OUR HOUSE IS OPEN ANYTIME FOR HIM TO SEE HER. I EVEN BRING MY DAUGHTER TO SOME OF THEIR FAMILY GATHERING, BECAUSE I WANT MY DAUGHTER TO BE FAMILIAR WITH THEM, HER FATHER AND HER RELATIVES ON THAT SIDE. I HAVE BEEN CASUAL AND NEVER INSULTED HIM OR SAY ANYTHING AGAINST HIM. IT WAS A HARD PROCESS AFTER ALL HE DONE TO ME BUT IM THINKING THIS IS IMPORTANT FOR MY DAUGHTER BECAUSE I DONT WANT HER TO THINK SHE IS A BASTARD.
I HOPE SOMEONE CAN GIVE ME ADVICE ABOUT THIS. THERE IS TOO MUCH EMOTION I APOLOGIZE FOR WRITING THIS TOO LONG.
IF HE DONT GIVE ME THE DOCUMENTS IM ASKING FROM HIM, MY DAUGHTER CANT APPLY FOR HER VISA.
IM HOPING SOMEONE CAN GIVE MEA LIGHT ABOUT MY SITUATION.
THANK YOU SO MUCH AND MORE POWER FOR THIS WEBSITE THAT SURELY HELPS A LOT OF PEOPLE LIKE ME.
MAFI
