Parents won't stop controlling me at age 21

(I'm posting this for my girlfriend)

Hello, I'm just gonna hide my real name. I'll call myself Freya.

I'm 21 years old, 4th year college, graduating this march.
My parents basically pay for everything.
I am grateful for that.
But the problem is, they're the authoritarian kind of parents.
they control me in every way, pressure me, and want me to be perfect, gets mad at me for almost everything.
They want me to repay for everything that they did for me.
I would gladly help them, but them leeching off me is a different story.
I want to leave so bad and I have been holding on ever since.
There are times I wanted to kill myself because of this.
I've been suffering for years. And I want out. So I'm planning to have my own life after I graduate.
But I'm afraid that they won't allow me, or leave me alone, or tie me down.

So I'm asking, what should I do if ever that happens.
I want out soon. is it illegal for them to control me even 21?
or forcing me to be with them.
or what if they'll threaten me, my boyfriend, my friends, etc.
I just don't want them to control me anymore.
I want to go away.
In fact, I don't care if I don't see them anymore, that's how troubled my life and family is.
Please give me advice on what to do.
Thank you.

Tell them to LEAVE YOU ALONE!!! No ones own you and they have no right to control you! We are born alone unless we have twins and we are in this world not because of them its because it's God's will! You don't owe them anything! You are not their slave and its parents responsibility to bring us up and take care of their children until they can look after themselves!

Freya: parents wud be parents whether we like it or not. We can't even choose our parents...

however, should you insist (without unnecessarily taking your own life) lets discuss more at adpr24242000@yahoo.com

Thanks

Atty K.R.

I can't talk to them cause they say I have no right to talk to them.
They said I should respect them and their decisions but they won't respect mine.
They've been taking their problems out on me and I've had enough.
I hope they'll leave me alone after I graduate.
But if they don't, I don't know what to do...

when and where on earth does parents have that right?, that their child/children can't talked to them..that's abuse on the parts of parents following your narration

could you email me at adpr24242000@yahoo.com to guarantee confidentiality

tnxs

Atty K.R.

I am also a parent and I never demand anything to my children but to study well for their own future but it never crossed my mind to benefit from it! My parents sounds the same as yours but I chosed to leave the country because they are too demanding and suffocating! My mother often say "I should have aborted you when you were just in my tummy if I have known you will not give me everything I want" she also said all the wealthiness I gave her is not enough to repay her for bringing me up! This is what we called 'EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL' don't feel guilty if you have to leave them, then leave! Nowadays the reason for BANTAY BATA is because of the abusive parents! But you're no longer a kid so you can't go and complain to DSWD, so you have to decide for yourself! NO ONE ELSE CAN HELP YOU BUT YOU! But remember this, parents has obligation to their children until they can stand on their own feet but children do not have an obligation to their parents! Helping them is one thing but them to control you is another thing! BE FIRM AND DO NOT ALLOW THEM! END THE STORY!

I 'am a parent too. And based on your story, there must be a reason why they're acting like that. It is a parents-child problem that only them can solve it. Almost all parents wishes only the best for their child/ren.