Asking for Advice on Proper Actions to be Done in My Case

Dear Attorney,

I am currently 4 months pregnant without the supposedly father of the child I am carrying.

I met the father this January and began our relationship. He is a Seaman abroad. Early February he took off on his 2-3 months contract and came back April, a day after his mother died.

On May, somebody from Facebook suddenly chatted with me and asked me regarding my ex partner. She then suddenly told me that she is my ex partner's girlfriend and that they are currently in a relationship.

I confronted my ex partner during that time and he denied the allegation. Until I was able to come across a Facebook account that they both owned. I then made screenshots and showed it to Joshua (the name of my ex partner). That is when he confessed and told me that they just broke up and he chose me over her.

Months passed and we are still having conflicts as the girl is still calling him (the girl is working at Saudi Arabia and is married with two children). The woman, is already 9 years married. Edlene (the girl) and Joshua were (if they really broke up) in a relationship for five years already November 2013. Joshua said that they didn't knew she was married and had children and even used the name of Edlene's daughter "Faith" as an alias to them. They only knew at a later time but Joshua still accepted Edlene.

My dilemma right now is that I am pregnant. Joshua and I broke up due to the conflicts that we have now and then regarding Edlene. Also, Joshua's aunt have insulted me. His cousin even posted on Facebook (upon knowing that Joshua and I broke up last November) that their family is better without my presence.

My mom has been trying to get in touch with Joshua just to help with financial support especially with my upcoming delivery next year May 2013, especially with prenatals, vitamins, milk supplements, and even with emotional support, but to no avail. My mom calls their landline (they have a caller ID). His uncle answers the phone and just verbalizes that Joshua is not there (everytime my mother calls).

I am asking for guidance as to what would be the appropriate steps for me to do. I am even requesting to render overtime on Saturdays and 2 hours everyday despite my delicate condition in order to secure money for my pregnancy with all the costs and specially for my delivery, which stresses me out a lot.

I am hoping for your response. Thank you.

first, im not a lawyer. but in your case, draft a demand letter for your needs and address it jan sa seaman-loloko na yan.. then if they refuse to resp? ska tau isip ng nxt move:) wag mo na muna isipin yang jowawerz mo na yan:) ako na lng muna isipin mo para masaya:) better to think first, may possibility na I deny ng kabilang side yan just to escape obligation. kya be aware and be ready. anyway, sa mga ganyang case kase? first step nila is sending a demand letter. and to put your self in a safe place? kailangan I justify mo din na wla ka alam sa situation and rel nung seman-loloko before nag isa ang inyong mga katawang lupa:) para iwas dengue!! este! iwas resbak ba:) kung hndi naman sila kasal nung una? safe ka sa concubinage:) anyway.. to make this walang kwnetang resp. short!

1. draft a demand letter and address kay seaman-aaswang:)
2. if the case will lift to the court? may mga legal aid ofc na willing mag serve ng libre sa mga gaya nating mariang palad:) este!! kapos palad pla:)
3. wag na sawsawan pa ang ibang issue. ikaw ang baby ang prior ditto. just kip on praying lng. everything will be alryt:) ako na bahala sa gatas:)

raheemerick wrote:first, im not a lawyer. but in your case, draft a demand letter for your needs and address it jan sa seaman-loloko na yan.. then if they refuse to resp? ska tau isip ng nxt move:) wag mo na muna isipin yang jowawerz mo na yan:) ako na lng muna isipin mo para masaya:) better to think first, may possibility na I deny ng kabilang side yan just to escape obligation. kya be aware and be ready. anyway, sa mga ganyang case kase? first step nila is sending a demand letter. and to put your self in a safe place? kailangan I justify mo din na wla ka alam sa situation and rel nung seman-loloko before nag isa ang inyong mga katawang lupa:) para iwas dengue!! este! iwas resbak ba:) kung hndi naman sila kasal nung una? safe ka sa concubinage:) anyway.. to make this walang kwnetang resp. short!

1. draft a demand letter and address kay seaman-aaswang:)
2. if the case will lift to the court? may mga legal aid ofc na willing mag serve ng libre sa mga gaya nating mariang palad:) este!! kapos palad pla:)
3. wag na sawsawan pa ang ibang issue. ikaw ang baby ang prior ditto. just kip on praying lng. everything will be alryt:) ako na bahala sa gatas:)

nahihirapan na nga kami humingi kasi pag tumatawag si mama ko, palaging wala.. mas nakakapanlumo kasi mama ko ang binabastos.. parang kaya ko pang i-face lahat ng panlalait at mga pinagsasabi niya.. pero ang pamilya ko pa ang nagpapakumbaba para makausap siya at matulungan ako sa gastos, siya pa ang nagtatago at hindi humaharap..

that's is why mag pa draftka ng demand leter. only to shake there eggs:) if im not mistaken? 500 pesos yta pa draft? then send it sa address nila tru post or lbc para sosyal:) hehehe.. anyway, try mo consult sa legal ofc and lift the issue. they are willing to give advice and tell you what to do:)

he has a cousin which works in a legal office, so im quite hesitate regarding the draft letter..

also, his older sister was left (i guess) by the husband and I've heard they have a protection order against the father of the children..

so sa tingin ko, they have all the knowledge regarding this matter.. ako ang wala.. ako pa ang biktima at kinawawa..huhu

UPDATE:

Last week Friday was the first schedule for the Summon sent to the respondent. We were advised to seek first help from the Women's Desk at the police station so they can escort and collaborate with the GAD of the Brgy regarding the matter. Upon speaking with the Women's Desk, they have decided to do the talk instead to the police station.

At the police station, I made the guy sign an Affidavit of Paternity so he will acknowledge that the child I am currently bearing ay sa kanya, baka magbago ang isip niya at gumawa ng storya.. So he signed.

Second, I was able to retrieve back my phone na nasa kanya.

Third, no agreement was made regarding the support. Kasi lagi niyang pinapalabas na makakabayad lang siya pag nakasakay na siya.. eh may proof ako na nakaka-secure siya ng certain amount which is more than the monthly expenses for the prenatal at di man lang siya nagbigay ni minsan for the prenatal expenses.

Unfortunately, the barangay ayaw magbigay ng Certificate to File Action. Advise ng Brgy Captain na since daw more than 1 year ang penalty ng VAWC, eh pwede daw ako dumiretso sa korte.

Advice po kung ano ang pwede kong next step na gawin.

Thank you po.