child custody

I want to get my son on his dad. I know that on his age he must be on his mother. But there are some things that the law says that if the mother is unfit the custody is on his father. They are telling me that i stole their money. And i admit that i cheated on my son's father. But i just want to ask if this will be a deprived for me not to get the custody of my son? My son is turning 3 this march.They says that its ok for me to visit the child but i will not get my son. So i decided to take it to a legal action. Now i'm looking for a job. Pls give me some advice. Godbless everyone

napunta po ko sa pangasinan last june 2012 to work on their business. i agreed naman po. and last november they new that i was cheating on his son.nasaktan po nila ako physically and may mga salita din pong di maganda. bale nangyare po ito wala po ung father ng baby ko so we decided na sa kanila muna ung bata peo nung dumating na po ung tatay ng anak ko pag knkmusta ko p ung bata di po niya ko nirereplyan at may time po na pinapatawag ko po yung pamangkin ko para makausap ko po ung anak ko. may laban po ba ko kasi may mga evidence po sila laban sken sa pangloloko sa anak nila pero di p kame kasal at ung ginagamit na surname ng anak ko e ung sa tatay niya. and theyre calling me not fit to be on the child custody. at yung akusa po nila sa pera di ko po alam kung san po napunta yun. o gngwa lang po nilang panakot po ito para hindi ko po kunin yung anak ko. Naghahanap pa lang po ko ng job ngayon. sana ay matulongan niyo ko. Godbless

You are not married, so in case of illegitimate child, the mother have full parental authority over the child. Not to mention that he is under 7y/o. your cheating issue cannot be used as a reason to take away that rights from you and your child. Ask the help of local DSWD to get back your child.

I went to their brgy and we need to follow the procedure first before we go to dswd. khit po ba twice ko n siyang niloko at they have the evidence di po un mgiging cause pra di ko po mkuha yung anak ko. thank you

@ concepab
kahit na po ngsabi ako sa mother niya n lalayo n lang ako. dahil sa nalaman po nila na niloko ko po ung anak nila. magulo po kasi utak ko nung time na po un kaya nasabi ko po un but now I have a clear understanding to fight for my son.

gracey16 wrote: I went to their brgy and we need to follow the procedure first before we go to dswd. khit po ba twice ko n siyang niloko at they have the evidence di po un mgiging cause pra di ko po mkuha yung anak ko. thank you

that depends. in order to take away the custody from you, they have to prove that you are unfit to be a mother, or you are endangering the child. they may bring forward your cheating issue to show that you are unfit because immorality. excuse my word but that is a one possible scenario.

gracey16 wrote: @ concepab
kahit na po ngsabi ako sa mother niya n lalayo n lang ako. dahil sa nalaman po nila na niloko ko po ung anak nila. magulo po kasi utak ko nung time na po un kaya nasabi ko po un but now I have a clear understanding to fight for my son.

well stand firm, show them what you got.

please read my post and if you response it will be such an honor for me. Thank you so much ) Godbless

Generally, the mother has the sole parental authority over the illegitimate child. But this is not absolute. The general well-being and the welfare of the child is of paramount importance. If it can be shown before the court that you are unfit as a mother,the custody of the child can be awarded to the father.

thud this mean the cheating can be a reason for me to be deprived for the custody

Your having a relationship with another man is not a crime, considering that you are not married to the father of your child. That alone is not sufficient to deprive you or your parental authority to the child. However, if it is a series acts of indiscretions, then they might use that as a ground that you are morally unfit to raise the child.

im having an annulment and my son is with my husband. can o ask for a joint custody for our son?

and i have a friend who has 2 children with her ex bf, she is asking for child support from the father. we just want to know how should she ask for if the father's income is only 8000 a month?

@ gracey16

based on what i've read, unemployment of the mother can be a ground not to gain custody. just read the family code thoroughly specifically article on illegit child