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Child Support O Blackmail?

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1Child Support O Blackmail? Empty Child Support O Blackmail? Wed Jul 07, 2010 6:45 pm

vhino05


Arresto Menor

Gusto ko lang po malaman kung pwede po ba akong pwersahin ng aking asawa na magbigay ng child support sa aking dalawang anak gayung itinakas nya ito sa pag-aaruga ng aking ina?
One year ago bigla na lamang inintriga ng aking asawa ang dalawa kong anak sa aking ina. Sa kadahilanan na mas makukuha ng mga bata ang suportang minimithi nila. Makalipas ang 6 na buwan nalaman namin na 6 na buwan itong buntis sa ibang lalaki. Naisip namin na marahil ito ang isa sa mga dahilan kung bakit nya ibinigay ang mga bata. Dahil dito ay umuwi ako ng bansa para nagfile ng reklamong adultery laban sa kanya at kasalukuyang dinidinig sa quezon city. Sa ibang banda, ginawa namin ang nararapat para sa mga bata, pinag-aral ko sila sa private school at naibigay ang iba pa nilang mga pangangailang. Matapos ang lahat ng ito ay basta na lamang itinakas ng aking asawa ang mga bata kamakailan lamang. Ngayon, nakatanggap ang aking ina ng subpoena sa kasong child abuse sa aking mga anak na pawang walang katotohanan. Ngayon sa aming palagay ay ginagamit ng aking asawa ang aming mga anak bilang pananggalan sa kasong aking isinampa sa kanya. Binigyan nya pa ako ng babala na sakaling bumalik ako sa bansa ay di na ako makalalabas pa para magtrabo bilang OFW.
Sa inyo po bang palagay, ano po ba ang nararapat kong gawin para karapin ang problemang ito.
Taos puso po akong nagpapasalamat sa inyong maipapayo, salamat po!

2Child Support O Blackmail? Empty Re: Child Support O Blackmail? Wed Jul 07, 2010 8:53 pm

attyLLL


moderator

tough situation. parents shall jointly exercise custody. as the father you can claim custody, BUT this cannot be done through proxy. if you want custody, you have to do it yourself and be physically here, else your wife will always win over your mother.

how old are your children? if they are below 8, you will have to show that the mother is unfit, and adultery, by itself, is not enough. you have to show that her immorality will affect the children.

are you included in the complaint? is it for child abuse or economic violence under ra 9262? your thread title relates to support.

as horrible as it sounds, you still have to provide support otherwise you will be liable for economic violence.

by the mere filing of her complaint, she can already request for the issuance of a watch list order, and you may be prevented from leaving if it is granted. there are ways to counter this through court or administrative processes.

your best move now is to ensure that you provide support for your children and prepare a defense against her complaint. it is not enough to allege that she is using it to counter charge you, you have to positively show that her allegations are untrue, or that they were justified.

if you want full custody of your children, you have to choose to be here, and file a petition for issuance of a writ of habeas corpus, custody and visitation rights. good luck.

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3Child Support O Blackmail? Empty Re: Child Support O Blackmail? Thu Jul 08, 2010 2:32 am

vhino05


Arresto Menor

Salamat po sa reply, Alam ko na po ang tungkol sa pagproseso tungkol sa petition for custody ng mga bata. Ang hindi ko lang po maintindihan kung bakit pati mga anak ko eh nagagamit para kami gantihan nitong nasabi kong asawa. Naaawa lang ako sa aking ina na nag aruga sa mga bata habang nagbubuntis ang kanilang ina. Matapos manganak at makaipon ng lakas bigla na lamang nyang babawiin ang aking mga anak. Ginamit lang pala nya kami, at ngayon nagawa pa nilang idemanda ang kanilang lola.
Gusto ko lang po malaman kung ano ang dapat kong gawin para mahinto na itong pang aabusong ginagawa ng aking asawa. Malinaw ang kanyang intensyon na muling maibalik sa kanya ang sustento ng mga bata para na gumaan gaan ang buhay nila kapiling itong nasabi kong kalaguyo at bago nilang anak.
Manhid ko na lang sabihin na hindi ako pabor dahil nagawa na nilang makinabang sa sustentong ipinapadala ko para sa mga bata. Bukod sa aking isinampang kaso laban sa kanya, ano pa po ba ang dapat kong ikaso sa ginawa nyang pagtakas sa aking dalawang anak. Ang panganay ko po ay 14 y.o. at ang bunso ay 12. Mismo ang panganay ko ang nakalagda sa natanggap namin reklamo ng pang aabuso ( r.a.9262 ) sa mga bata. Tungkol naman sa imoralidad, hindi paba sapat ang pakikisama ng aking asawa sa ibang lalaki at pagkakaanak nito dito para matawag na immorality.
Wala rin akong pagkukulang sa sustento at meron akong mga dokumento na patunay na hindi ko sila pinabayaan kahit nung sila at malilit pa.
Tungkol naman sa watch list, ganuon na lang ba kadali ang magproseso nito, basta ka na lang ba ihohold kahit wala kang ni isang record ng kriminalidad.
Maaari po bang inyong bigyang linaw ang aking mga katanungan, salamat po.

4Child Support O Blackmail? Empty Re: Child Support O Blackmail? Thu Jul 08, 2010 10:04 am

attyLLL


moderator

Malinaw ang kanyang intensyon na muling maibalik sa kanya ang sustento ng mga bata para na gumaan gaan ang buhay nila kapiling itong nasabi kong kalaguyo at bago nilang anak.

so you did stop sending support?

you can not stop her from filing a complaint against your mother. your best move will be to help defend her. you can file your counter charges if you have evidence.

As a parent, she had the right to reacquire her children. If your mother had refused, she may have been liable for kidnapping.

again, if you want custody, you have to be here.

oh, and that child she bore, it is legally considered YOUR child because it was born while you were married, unless you file a judicial action to impugn the legitimacy of the child.

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5Child Support O Blackmail? Empty Re: Child Support O Blackmail? Thu Jul 08, 2010 3:32 pm

vhino05


Arresto Menor

NO Sir, I didn't stop sending support, the fact is they were with my mothers. Wife took them one week ago without permission, so basically they are under my care even though i am out of the country for work. Me and my wife are not legally separated nor annulled. We have our differences that causes our marriage to break up. She's living with her parents and I am here, abroad.
I couldn't file an annulment case because of the pending case filed against her. So, if proven that there are basis for my complain for her being immoral then that would be the time for me to have full custody of my children.
Now that my children are with her, i am assuming that sooner or later she will ask for support which I wouldn't want to give because I know that her new child will benefit from it. Parang, ano ba? nagawa na nila ito nuon at ngayon gagawin pa uli nila? And to add insult to my whole being, legally anak ko parin pala yun bago nyang baby sa ibang lalaki, my goodness ano ba ito?
Where is the justice?

6Child Support O Blackmail? Empty Re: Child Support O Blackmail? Thu Jul 08, 2010 5:37 pm

attyLLL


moderator

ok, let me answer you this way. If I were your lawyer, I would recommend:

1) you file an action to impugn the legitimacy of the child
2) file for custody of the children NOW with the allegation that she is an unfit mother (even if she is convicted of adultery, custody will not be taken from her because that is not part of the penalty)
3) defend your mother from the charges of child abuse
4) continue with the adultery charge
5) consider filing for annulment now if there is a valid ground (not correct to say that you have to wait for her to be convicted)

For support, I would recommend setting up a means of providing cash and non-cash support for your children with means of liquidation and transparency.

To maximize your chances of success, I would recommend you consider coming back here permanently to take personal custody of your children. Again, this cannot be done through proxy. good luck

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7Child Support O Blackmail? Empty Re: Child Support O Blackmail? Thu Jul 08, 2010 5:46 pm

vhino05


Arresto Menor

Noted, I highly appreate everything you said dear moderator.
Thank you for taking time answering most of my question, Godbless at mabuhay po kayo!

8Child Support O Blackmail? Empty Re: Child Support O Blackmail? Thu Jul 08, 2010 9:46 pm

vhino05


Arresto Menor

Clairification lang po dear moderator, bakit ko kailangan pang magfile ng custody kung one year ago ay kusang ibinigay sa akin ang mga bata. Hindi po ba lumalabas na unfit mother sya dahil sa ginawa nyang pag-iwan with the certain reason na nabuntis sya ng iba? At yung kanyang kinakasama at bagong anak, di po ba grounds ito na magpapatunay na dahilan ng kanyang pag iwan. Maliwanag din po na sapilitan nyang kinuha ang mga bata sa aking custody ng wala akong pahintulot, bakit ngayon parang lumalabas na ako pa ang naghahabol. Basically she give up her rights nung inabandona nya ang mga bata.
Pwede ko na syang kasuhan ng kidnapping di po ba? Meron po akong power of attorney na nagsasabi na habang wala ako ay ang mother ko ang tumatayong guardian nila. May karapatan din ang mother ko na habulin sya para maibalik ang mga bata hindi po ba?
Ang disadvantage lang po ngayon ay hindi ko pwedeng iwanan ang trabaho ko sa abroad dahil ito lamang ang means para kami mabuhay. Is there no other way to do this kahit na nasa abroad ako. Maaari naman akong umuwi pero not to the extent na permanent stay as in sa bansa na ko magwowork.
Salamat po uli sa inyong agarang pagsagot.

9Child Support O Blackmail? Empty Re: Child Support O Blackmail? Fri Jul 09, 2010 9:59 am

attyLLL


moderator

Clairification lang po dear moderator, bakit ko kailangan
pang magfile ng custody kung one year ago ay kusang ibinigay sa akin ang mga bata. Hindi po ba lumalabas na unfit mother sya dahil sa ginawa nyang pag-iwan with the certain reason na nabuntis sya ng iba? At yung kanyang kinakasama at bagong anak, di po ba grounds ito na magpapatunay na dahilan ng kanyang pag iwan. Maliwanag din po na sapilitan nyang kinuha ang mga bata sa aking custody ng wala akong pahintulot, bakit ngayon parang lumalabas na ako pa ang naghahabol. Basically she give up her rights nung inabandona nya ang mga bata.
parental authority is not lost except by judicial order. you mention grounds, i agree they have merit, but you cannot just march up to her house and grab your children if she refuses to turn them over. you will need a judicial order to get it done. it is one thing to have a right, and another to enforce it.

you can try filing a case of kidnapping, but i seriously doubt it will prosper. your power of attorney did not serve to sever her parental authority over the children; besides, did she sign it also? even if she did, she can certainly rescind it.

any and all the legal actions i proposed are possible even if you are there. you will only appear as needed. your mother can stand as guardian if it can be proven that it is in the best interest of the children that they stay with her.

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10Child Support O Blackmail? Empty Re: Child Support O Blackmail? Fri Jul 09, 2010 6:07 pm

vhino05


Arresto Menor

Thank you po sa reply. Paano naman po ang parental authority ko attyLLL?. Does it mean na maging sunod sunuran na lamang ako sa mga gusto nyang mangyari ngayon nasa kanya na mga bata.
Nagkaroon po ng hearing ngayon umaga sa barangay. Ayon sa kapatid ko na focus sa verbal abuse ang usapan dahil wala silang maipakitang medical records ng doktor sa sumbong na physical abuse na nangyari nung araw na tumakas sila. Pinalalabas nila na napilitang silang tumakas dahil sa ginagawang pangaabuso ng aking ina.
Nais nyang mangyari pa ay bayaran namin ang kakulangan na walong libo sa private school na pinasukan ng mga anak ko para makuha ang shcool cards nila. Gusto rin nilang kunin ang mga natitira pang gamit ng bata sa bahay.
Ayaw po naming pumayag sa gusto nyang mangyari dahil sinira nya ang pag-aaral ng mga anak ko na nasa matinong paaralan. Hindi po ba nararapat na sya ang magbayad ng kakulangan sa eskwela dahil sya naman ang may utak ng lahat ng ito.
Nuong nasa akin ang mga bata wala akong hiningi kahit isang sentimo para sa partesepasyong nya at ngayon nais nya kaming gipitin at sumunod sa gusto nya.
Nareset ang hearing sa susunod na linggo dahil hindi sila nagkaayos ngayon.
Kung halimbawa po na hindi mag prosper ang kasong child abuse na isinampa nya sa aking ina ano po kaya ang pwede naming ikaso sa kanya sa ginawa nyang iskandalo sa amin bukod sa kidnapping? Salamat pong muli sa inyo attyLLL.

11Child Support O Blackmail? Empty Re: Child Support O Blackmail? Sat Jul 10, 2010 11:38 am

attyLLL


moderator

you have to be hear to exercise your parental authority. right now she can easily argue you are an absent parent. again, if she refuses, your remedy is to take legal action.

I hope you will acquire a good lawyer to guide you through all the legal processes.

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